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We all have self-talk. Fortunately, we, and our students, can learn to shape what that self-talk is.
An “I Need Message” is a short and sweet way for students to be assertive and get their needs met, even with people they don’t know well.
Taking a deep breath isn’t just for difficult moments. This simple soothing strategy can help us and our students any time we need it.
Begin by asking students, "What do you need to feel safe, comfortable, and excited to learn?"
Instead of jumping ahead to brainstorming solutions, first explore why a problem is occurring.
Encouraging students to use put-ups can improve the climate in your classroom. But many put-ups are about surface qualities. (I like your shoes!) Help students craft deeper put-ups with these simple steps.
Once your students have identified their personal anger triggers, have them share those triggers with each other. This can foster empathy, increase students' awareness of themselves and others, and reduce conflicts.
Sometimes students become aware only later, after reflection, that they could have handled a situation in a better way. Lay the groundwork for students to request a "do-over" so they can address a mistake or misunderstanding after the fact.
Students are often stumped when it comes to finding a resolution to a conflict beyond saying “I’m sorry.” To get over this hump, encourage students to take two additional steps: Ask creative questions to understand the other person’s needs, and make a written commitment to change.
"I Messages" are a great SEL tool for conveying our emotional needs. But sometimes they can be used to make accusations. We can prevent that from happening with this simple tweak in the I Message format.